We know that people think talking about money just leads to fighting about money. So couples avoid discussing it or they do bring up money in the same ineffective ways and the cycle continues.
If your spouse (or you) defaults to nagging, controlling, dishonesty, or using guilt to “deal” with your concerns about money, you aren’t really dealing with anything. You are inflicting pain and driving your relationship closer to destruction. No one operates optimally when he or she is injured.
Solution: Recognize your contribution to the cycle. Pray for wisdom and God’s power to end your behavior and break the cycle. Confess your sin to your spouse and ask their forgiveness. Their sin is … their sin. Pray for your spouse and your marriage. Avoid the temptation to point out their flaws.
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